The Ill Praying for the Ill

When I was younger, I promised myself I would never sit around and bore people about my increasing aches and pains. Now that I am older, I am naturally more empathetic to my age-set’s varying degrees of ills. Not that I make evidence of my own physical decline a subject for conversation, but ailments, aches and pains are part of the way our bodies remind us that there is an eventual life terminus in the offing. Such as this is, I am learning that ailments are a useful gift for the elderly (and for those of any age, actually) as a prod to intercede for the suffering church worldwide. How can this be?

I confess that it is all too easy for me to forget to pray for those who are struggling physically. I confess that I am often negligent in my intercession for those who are ill. So at the risk of breaking my own vow not to bore others with discussions of personal physical ailments, let me nevertheless share about the wrestling match I had with my digestive system one whole night (and the rest of that week) and the lesson I learned about interceding for the sick from that unpleasant marathon event.

Years ago, on vacation with my husband, I ended up in the Emergency Room of a little town in Tennessee. I thought I was having a heart attack, the pain was so severe, but instead, after an EKG and a CAT (computerized axial tomography) scan, the ER doctor announced there was nothing wrong with my heart, but it appeared I had a hiatal hernia. He didn’t flap his hands about it, but suggested the intrusion of part of my stomach through the diaphragm might be a condition I would need to monitor. It appears that instead of having a heart attack, I was suffering from the late dinner we had enjoyed, rather too much country-fried chicken. I learned my lesson, have avoided deep fried foods of any kind in the twenty years since this incident, researched the topic and have basically controlled the impact of the hernia by eating smaller portions, avoiding late night meals, and finishing eating before my stomach had filled. Though over-the-counter mendicants for stomach ailments are seemingly endless in their variety (a recent shopping trip at Wal-Mart revealed a whole aisle of beautifully designed boxes dedicated to the cause of relieving stomach pain and intestinal discomfort), our medicine cabinet held a twenty-year-old bottle of Milk of Magnesia and a comparatively aging box of laxatives. The need for management of stomach issues has, obviously, been few and far between.

Every once in a while, if I experienced some discomfort, a feeling of being too full after eating, I learned if I paced in the house some, waiting for an hour or so for the food to pass through the digestive track, again making mental reminders all the while to (1) not eat too much at night, and (2) not eat after 5 o’clock or thereabouts at all, my hiatal hernia condition and I would get along just fine. Every once in a while, a random X-ray would evoke a medical response: “You’ve got quite a large hiatal hernia!” This happened when I tripped over the open dishwasher door in my kitchen, fell headfirst against a cabinet, dislocated my right shoulder and consequently was scheduled for corrective arthroscopic surgery. Perhaps I was more concentrated on the ER doctor’s exclamation, “You mean you hauled yourself off the floor and up the stairs with a dislocated shoulder to get your husband to drive you to the hospital? What a woman!” Consequently, patting myself on the back in agreement with the doctor’s evaluation (he had to call in another doctor to help him reset my shoulder—a little tug-of-war going on there), I didn’t pay too much attention to the “large hiatal hernia” remark.

However, my relationship with my hiatal hernia changed drastically last month when, after a regular checkup, my general physician referred me to a gastroenterologist (a woman—all my referrals from my G.P.— herself a woman—seem to be to females). This, ostensibly, was for the purpose of scheduling a routine colonoscopy. I personally think when one has survived decades and reached one’s seventies, one should not have to worry any longer about such diagnostic interventions.

I mentioned to the gastroenterologist that I had a hiatal hernia, and that it had never been examined. This led to an endoscopy, which led to an appointment with a referred surgeon (a man—no gender discrimination here), who professionally informed me that my hiatal hernia was actual a rather large paraesophageal hernia. A paraesophageal hernia could torque, cut off the blood supply to the stomach, which would lead to the loss of that essential organ. Now there was some quiet, but professional, hand-flapping—why hadn’t anyone taken notice of this before?

So back to the medical diagnostic unit of our nearby local hospital early one Monday morning, this time for a comprehensive blood draw panel and for a series of CAT scans (“CT CHEST ABDOMEN PELVIS W/CONTRAST Oral & IV,” reads the order I brought home from the surgeon’s office). These would give more accurate photos of the size, position and twist of what appeared to be a serious intrusive condition. A date was set for surgery as well as an appointment for another pre-op exam.

On Friday night of the same week, we invited new friends from the inner-city church we have been attending to our house for dinner. This was an African-American couple; she is the administrator of a Meals-on-Wheels program (food delivered to the elderly), and he, an ordained minister, is highly involved in bringing churches together across the city of Chicago in activist movements that hold government officials accountable to social concerns they might not attend to if these grassroots organizations, all faith-based, did not participate in regular peaceful protests. I served broiled salmon and roasted vegetables. The conversation was stimulating. We had a lovely evening.

By 10 o’clock, when our new friends left to drive back into the city, I was picking up signals that all was not well on the intestinal front; a war was beginning to wage in my digestive tract. By 4 o’clock, after six hours of moaning and groaning and huffing and puffing, with a stomach in turmoil, pain now shooting down my left arm, my husband and I agreed this was nothing to ignore. He dropped me off at the ER in order to park the car, and I made sure the admitting desk knew I was concerned about a heart attack happening at the moment, or about a paraesophageal hernia having become fully torqued. Fortunately, with digital records, the ER team could pull up my Monday CAT-scans and compare those photos to the ones now being taken in the wee hours of Saturday morning. Although my stomach was two times as large as it had been earlier in the week, there was no torqueing of the hernia. A shot of morphine calmed my digestive system. Blood draws indicated all was well on that on the hematology front. EKG monitors assured us that my heart was not at risk.

After three hours, having sent David home to sleep once we knew there was no immediate danger, after the morning ER shift change, I talked my way out of an imminent hospital-room assignment and, using my Lyft app, was able to schedule a driver to take me home. There was no need to wake David again. My husband gets nervous in hospitals; continued sleep would help him slough off the stress of our ER adventure.

Nevertheless, the whole next week was devoted to the management of pain-filled symptoms. I learned that the operative direction was “soft foods”—a phrase thrown out by my surgeon during the conversation before I had my CAT-scan exams, before the ER episode, and before my following week at home learning how to persuade a suddenly dysfunctional digestive system back into some kind of normalcy. I began to search the refrigerator and cupboards for edibles that would not challenge my already-threatened upper stomach and lower abdomen. Something soft. Soft food. Soft.

The second sleepless night after returning myself home from the ER, I began to appreciate the fact that abdominal mishaps must involve a huge percentage of the American population: How many of my fellow citizens were lying in bed, attempting to sleep, suffering from the pangs of digestive misfortune? I ceased to wonder at the row of highly designed stomach-aid boxes at Wal-Mart. They all were witness, this long wall of products, to a huge demand for over-the-counter treatments for this sour discomfort.

It was at this point, lying in my bed, not able even to toss and turn, my husband sleeping by my side, that a random thought whispered, What if this becomes a permanent physical condition for me? What if for the rest of my life, I’m going to have pain and distress after eating even minimal amounts of food? (That day: one banana, one bowl of yogurt, mugs of ginger tea, one piece of toast.)

I decided I would use the pain of that night (and the next three) to intercede for the sick in the world, for those who suffer, perhaps without medical remedies. My pain was physical, real to me, but working itself out in a system where I had excellent medical care available and nearby, where I had a warm home to return to on a snowy morning, where a loving husband attended to me with concern and care, where we were safe from foragers and violence and evil men; from warmongers and rapists and land-grabbers. Here, in this sanctuary that is my life, which it is so easy to take for granted, I could use my computer to educate myself about hernias, and stomach distresses, and home-remedy treatments, and diets. I could even read up on the surgical procedure for giant paraesophageal hernias (aparoscopic Nissen fundoplication, for anyone else who might want to know). The least I could do was use my distress as a reminder of the distresses of others.

I have a prayer exercise I’ve learned to use through the years—particularly during those nighttime hours when I cannot sleep—being a light sleeper, they have been many. This approach is a form of wordless prayer in which I remind myself of all the intercessors worldwide and of that great cloud of witnesses in the heavens Hebrews speaks of, which sustain and support and undergird our planet. “I urge, then, first of all,” writes Paul in Timothy 2, “that requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone” (vv. 1-2, NIV).

At night, in the quiet, without the rush of daytime activity, I mentally make myself available to join Christ who intercedes at the right hand of God (“…since he—Christ—always lives to make intercession for them,” Hebrews 7:25). Without words, but with a heart full of concern and love, eyes closed, body prone, I wait and almost always, a prayer mantle of intercession comes over me (given how frail our attempts at words are to explain profound spiritual experience, this is the best that I can describe this practice). I feel as though I am entering that intercessory circle, that place where Christ holds to heart, eternally and without interruption, every little starving child, every woman filled with terror, every man courageously standing before accusers for his faith, every farmer bemoaning a failing harvest, every saint boldly taking the message of the Gospel where it has not before been heard, every parent holding a feverish infant and standing outside a village clinic in a long and snaking line.

And so, during this week of gastric distresses, asking myself what I would do if this were to become a lifetime disability, I decided I would use the nighttime moments of duress to pray, to pray for those who suffer, to pray for my Christian brothers and sisters worldwide who are sick. Prayers of intercession for others, I am learning, offered up when my own physical pain is present, impresses a reality upon me that does not happen when I am praying without pain.

Two nights ago I slept soundly without any stomach suffering. Today I am feeling stronger. Perhaps I’ve had gastritis, an infection of the stomach that has nothing to do with my hiatal hernia. I’m only slightly aware by checking sounds emitting from my abdomen that I’ve eaten a small breakfast of yogurt and honey, topped with bananas and cinnamon, and one slice of toast with a butter-substitute spread—the most I’ve put in my stomach at one time over the last seven days.

But pain has taught me a lesson. Instead of praying for my body when it hurts, in the days ahead, I will pray for the Body, for those believers wherever they may be in the world who seek to follow Christ and serve God. Pain, along with discomfort, can bring us gifts if we so choose to allow it. Our own ills can sensitize us to the ills of others. The disease of a loved one demands our prayers. Concern and compassion, fearfulness and anxiety can cause us to spend hours on our knees and to hardly forget for a moment that this one we love is ill. Can we learn to remind ourselves that this physical disease is also an opportunity to pray for those with similar struggles who have no one to pray for them? Prayers for the sick that we know are often used beyond our knowing for those we don’t know.

“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” Ephesians 6:18, NIV. When we pray for those who are ill, we, like the people in the New Testament, are bringing those to Jesus. He casts out disorders for those who were possessed of demons; He healed all who were sick that were brought to Him (Matthew 8:16). Let us use our own illnesses to remind us to intercede for those who are also ill, the ones we know and the ones we don’t know.

This morning, while writing this, I found an old note tablet, and scanned the notes on the pages to see if there was anything I needed to retain. I had written out this prayer sometime in the past without knowing I would need it for this blog:

Karen Mains

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BOOK CORNER

An American Family:
A Memoir of Hope and Sacrifice
by Khizr Khan

This year, 2018, David and I have made a promise to each other that we will try to expose ourselves to thinking we wouldn’t usually read, attempt to understand, or in case of events, ordinarily attend. In that light, I’m attempting to learn more about the Muslim community here in the United Sates. Consequently, I read (as did David) and would like to recommend (as does he) An American Family: A Memoir of Hope and Sacrifice by Khizr Khan. Khan was the Muslim lawyer, who along with his wife, Ghazala, stood before the attendees of the Democratic Convention, honoring their son, U.S. Army Captain Humayun Khan, who was killed in 2004 while attempting to stop a suicide attack near Baquabah, Iraq.

Politics aside, the Khans were obviously chosen to appear on the Democratic Convention stage to make a point about the role of Muslims as American citizens. Ghazala, overcome by emotion, could not speak. Khizr Khan, was deliberate in his statements, challenging the Republican presidential candidate, Donald Trump with the question, “Donald Trump, you are asking Americans to trust you with our future. Let me ask you: Have you even read the United States Constitution? I will gladly lend you my copy.” And at that, the man actually pulled a dog-eared pocket sized copy from his breast pocket.

Needless to say, it was an electrifying moment. And many of us, watching this moment on our television screens, might have paused to ask that question of ourselves: Have I even, really, read the entire United States Constitution?

After that moment, I conducted an Internet search on Khizr Khan and discovered he graduated from the University of the Punjab in Pakistan, holds an L.L.B. from Punjab University Law College, and an L.L.M. from Harvard Law School. He is a member of the Bar of the Supreme Court of the United States, the District of Columbia Bar, the New York State Bar, and the American Bar Association. His law practice involves complex civil litigation, electronic discovery, health privacy compliance, and civil rights and veterans’ rights advocacy. OK. I decided we were dealing with much, much more than two grieving immigrant parents.

Because I try to read a couple of memoirs a month, I ordered An American Family: A Memoir of Hope and Sacrifice through Amazon.com. I was blown away by the book. Then I gave it to David to read, and we spent a little time yesterday asking ourselves why it was so powerful for both of us (“put the book down for a moment and close your eyes and just think about what you have read” kind of powerful). I believe this is because the book, a memoir of one family in America, essentially asks the same question of the reader: Have you even read the United States Constitution? Then, the follow-through considerations are: Do you understand what it means? Do you know that this American ideal is precious enough to die for? Do you understand that this document has created a powerful democratic system we don’t want to lose or take for granted or defile or corrode?

Sometimes we need the eyes of the outlier to remind us of what we do not want to throw away or lose through neglect. It will take you a couple of hours to read, but I guarantee that the impact of reading has the potential to become profound moment in your thinking.